Question
My boyfriend and I have sex a lot and we both enjoy it. However, I can't feel him ejaculate inside me and I hate asking him if he's done because it's a real turn-off for both of us. Is it normal for girls to not be able to feel guys come inside them? And if so, how can I tell when he's done?
Hi there,
You can relax; You’re normal. Ejaculate is usually a relatively small (teaspoon or so) amount of fluid, and generally doesn’t come out (out: Short for ‘out of the closet’. When someone’s LGBTQ+ identity is known to other people.) with such force that you should feel it. Some women say they CAN feel it, but you’re not abnormal for not being able to feel it, and there is nothing abnormal about your partner (partner: In a sexual context, a person with whom someone is having some kind of sex. The term “partner” can be used for all kinds of relationships, not just serious ones. “Partner” can also mean the person someone is with in a romantic or familial partnership.) either.
You may notice subtle things about your partner after he’s orgasmed. He may make certain noises or facial expressions, or simply stop moving. Instead of always having to ask “Are you done yet?”, you can watch for these signals, or ask your partner to give you some sort of sign that he’s finished.
Keep in mind that there is always a risk of sexually transmitted infection (infection: When harmful microbes, or germs, or harmful levels of microbes/germs, enter the body and multiply, causing illness. The common cold, flu viruses, sexually transmitted infections, chickenpox, impetigo, rabies and diphtheria are some kinds of infections.) (STI (STI: Sexually transmitted infections: illness, infection and/or disease which is often or can be transmitted through sexual or other intimate contact, like HIV, Chlamydia or Herpes. Some people call STIs STDs.) ) transmission with any genital to genital contact, or contact with any bodily fluids. If you have not been monogamous (monogamous: In the context of sex, people choosing to be with each other sexually exclusively; to only have one sexual partner at a time.) for 6 months and both had two clear STI screens, we suggest condom (condom: A thin sheath or tube of latex or another material, worn over the penis during sex to prevent or reduce the risk of pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted infections.) -use for all genital to genital and fluid contact. As well, you also have pregnancy (pregnancy: The state of carrying a developing embryo or fetus within the uterus. Medically, someone is considered to be pregnant when an egg has been fertilized by sperm, cells divide, and the fertilized egg is implanted within the lining of the uterus.) risks, if you are not using some sort of birth control (birth control: Any number of methods people use to intentionally prevent unwanted pregnancy, including the condom, the cervical barrier, the implant, the patch, the pill, the rhythm method, the ring, the shot, the IUD, spermicide and withdrawal.) . Condoms work great as birth control too :)
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